Scott has been gone on business for a few days. I woke up the other morning to find this list on the counter:
Taylor is following in his father’s footsteps; both in helpfulness and the need to write lists. Scott is a list man. If it gets on the list it will get done (eventually). But if it’s not on the list, the task doesn’t exist. This works well for him, and Taylor has discovered that it’s the best method for him to keep organized.
I, on the other hand, rarely write lists. I have some general goals for the week, and long term goals way back in my mind, besides the regular stuff that needs to get done. (Laundry anyone?) I have any appointments written on my calendar, and that’s how I work. I know some people feel like they’ve accomplished something when they cross off their list. I guess I just see all the uncompleted tasks rather than the ones crossed off. Lists feel like a form of tyranny. You must do such and such today!!! Which reminds me of that great Frog and Toad story where Toad writes a list of what he will do for the day, but when he loses it, he is immobilized.
But I digress. Lists never get completely crossed off when you’re a SAHM, you can just keep adding. With little kids, it’s hard to predict when I’ll accomplish something so I grab my opportunities when they arise. I also need to feel motivated. Writing that I must clean the bathrooms on Tuesday morning pretty much guarantees that I won’t do it then. What will happen is that while the youngest are in the tub, I’ll wipe a counter, then get a pail and cloth, and before you know it the bathroom has been cleaned and it did not feel like a CHORE that I had to do.
One caveat on the topic of lists, is that I do use lists to remember things. My aging brain needs reminders to pick up a child from school late, or run all the errands I need to do in an afternoon. And I definitely use a grocery list… items listed in order of where they are located in the store. Ok… so I’m not totally anti-list. I’m just against bossy lists. Shopping lists are good.
What is your relationship with lists? Good, bad or indifferent?